1. Speculative At Best
I don't want to turn my PEAKD channel into another red-pill hangout, because I realize that women have their fair share of problems too. However, this one female shrink on YouTube has me so annoyed and even agitated that I simply have to call her out on her malarkey. Her YouTube channel is named "Gentle Path Forward," and she posted a video about men that are most likely to remain single. Here is her video below.
A Self-Proclaimed Therapist Explains Why She Believes Men Never Get Married
This YouTube influencer who proclaims herself to be a therapist in her video above insists that her so-called findings are based upon research. However, she never names what her sources of research are throughout her entire video. For the purposes of this article, I will refer to her as YouTuber Gentle Path Forward.
YouTuber Gentle Path Forward claims that she doesn't intend to offend anyone in her video. However, her narrative sounds like the diatribe that Tomi Lahren would spew on Fox News about how she believes that all men are trash. Watching her video is like listening to everyone's favorite femi-Nazi Rachel Oates give a lecture about grooming. Oh, brother!
Does this so-called therapist actually believe that there can be a one-size-fits-all conclusion for something as complex as the reasons behind why men never get to marry? I simply disbelieve that she or any mental-health professional can cover something like this in a 9-minute video on YouTube. Moreover, her video is more of an opinion editorial as opposed to a delivery of cold, hard facts.
The fact of the matter is that most mental-health professionals do not give good advice about marriage or relationships, because the majority of their marriages and relationships are unstable and even broken. It's like the blind leading the blind.
Take a good look at Dr. Phil McGraw ("Dr. Phil"). For many years, he hid the fact that his marriage to his kids' mother was on the rocks.
Dr. Park Elliott Dietz is a forensic psychiatrist in case you've never heard of him before. He had a clown-car marriage to Laura Helene Bekeart for 18 years. She was almost like his partner in crime, and then he ultimately threw her under the bus and sought to stick it to her on her alimony from him.
Dr. Dietz's current marriage to Anne Lucille Cohen Dietz is obviously one of convenience. He allows her to spend as much of his money as she wants in exchange for him to keep up his conservative do-gooder image to the public. This man has an extremely quirky demeanor for someone who likes to pass judgment even on people whom he hasn't even met or actually examined. This man's entire career has been one major sick joke.
2. Flaws In YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's Talking Points
As you go through all of YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's talking points in her video, as a man, you'll notice a number of flaws in them. Allow me to address each of them one by one herein.
She claims that a man's inability to find a woman to marry can be attributed to his poor social skills. She needs to be more specific in what she is saying. She also needs to provide a solution to what she perceives to be poor social skills on the part of a man.
A man can be outgoing and sociable in every way; but if women walk away from him whenever he attempts to strike up conversations with them, what good does it do him?
YouTuber Gentle Path Forward has never had to deal with these kinds of situations, because she is a woman and society never expects her to take the initiative in meeting someone of the opposite gender for non-Platonic purposes. I, therefore, must question whether the sources of what she claims to be research were all women. If so, it would explain everything regarding the faulty information she provides in her video.
YouTuber Gentle Path Forward claims that socially isolated men are least likely ever to get married. Allow me to chime in on that talking point of hers.
The United States has become more atomized than it has ever been. Socialization has moved to social media for the most part here in the so-called land of milk and honey. The places where men and women used to meet before the Internet became available no longer exist for the most part.
YouTuber Gentle Path Forward should also know that perhaps men most likely to remain single have difficulty initiating and maintaining relationships, because they don't have much quality women to choose from here in the United States. Duhhh!! What really irks me is that she fails to acknowledge that external forces could be mainly to blame for men's inability to secure marriage. As per usual, men get blamed for society failing them.
YouTuber Gentle Path Forward claims that men with unstable socioeconomic status are most likely never to get married. She left out the fact that hypergamy contributes to this situation more than anything. American women want to have their cake and eat it too regardless of what state the American economy is in.
YouTuber Gentle Path Forward? You should also have mentioned that we live in a caste system in which marriage and family have turned into a popularity contest in recent years here in the United States. You have to wonder why high-school reunions are dying out. Nowadays most people go to those events to boast and posture about themselves and flash pictures of their kids to everyone, even when nobody is interested in their lives or their families.
The reason that so many men have unstable employment and unstable income is because the American job market has collapsed in recent years. Salaries are no longer keeping up with the cost of living here in the so-called land of milk and honey. What part of that do American women not understand?
Here in the United States, men are still expected to be providers in marriages, but, at the same time, women still want equality with men. American women are very entitled in their attitudes about marriage and family. Of course, YouTuber Gentle Path Forward would not have mentioned any of those same facts in her video above, because she wants to make it look as though men are to blame for everything that doesn't happen in their lives.
Whoever these so-called researchers are that YouTuber Gentle Path Forward speaks of in her video above, they probably came up with their perceptions and wrote them down as they were feasting on caviar and champagne underneath their diamond chandeliers in their ivory towers. Therefore, how would any of them know what it's like to struggle in every department of life? They don't live in that same world as average American men do.
YouTuber Gentle Path Forward should know that there are men that have hostile views of dating because women have raked them over the coals in one way or another here in the United States. American women have unrealistic expectations of men. YouTuber Dapper Dev will tell you how it is in his video below.
YouTuber Dapper Dev Tells The Brutally Honest Truth About American Women
YouTuber Gentle Path Forward is correct in her assertion that whenever there is an unfavorable ratio of men vs. women where a man is living, it goes against his chances of ever finding that one woman who wants to marry him. For example, if a heterosexual man lives in Antarctica somewhere where there are mostly men, he's not likely to meet the love of his life and get married to start a family.
YouTuber Gentle Path claims that men in their forties, fifties, sixties, or beyond who have never been partnered have one of the lowest chances of having a relationship and getting married. Well, in the United States, they do. However, she left out the part that the United States has nothing to offer them as for the prospects of marriage and family.
These older men, so to speak, need to search for love and romance in more promising places than the United States like Eastern Europe, Latin America, or even Asia. The institutions of marriage and family have become a sham for older men and all men here in the United States for that matter.
In her video, YouTuber Gentle Path Forward masks her ageist attitude by claiming that older men's and 20-something-year-old women's lives still are so different from that of each other that an age-gap marriage between them has very low chances of succeeding. Oh, really? Then why do you hear about so many of such marriages being successful? YouTuber Gentle Path Forward is not giving accurate information.
YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's point about most single middle-aged men's peers being married is misleading. The fact of that matter is that many of their peers are either divorced or living in polyamorous marriages that may not be polyamorous with both spouses' permission.
It is common for women in Generation X to screw around on their husbands. What about baby boomers? Huh. Even though it's not the 1960s anymore, they continue to believe in free love insofar as their marriages are nothing more than words on a piece of paper.
If you're a middle-aged man in your forties, fifties, or sixties and you've never been married, you have a couple of choices. You can go abroad to seek out the perfect candidate for marriage. There are even women who immigrate to the United States and will pay you to marry them so that they can get their green card. Of course, be careful with that avenue, because I don't think that it's even legal. LOL!
In her video, YouTuber Gentle Path Forward states that men who have past trauma and negative relationship experiences tend to remain single. You think? Women are belittling men here in the United States more than they have ever done so throughout the history of our nation. Therefore, who is to blame for that?
Now, I do have to give YouTuber Gentle Path Forward credit where credit is due. I do agree with her that many never-married men here in the United States are survivors of child abuse, incest, and bullying. Emotional scars from such tragic events in one's past can throw a monkey wrench into everything in their life.
In her video, YouTuber Gentle Path Forward recommends that never-married men befriend people that are in healthy marriages. However, here is the problem with that advice. Those people are not necessarily going to want to befriend a never-married man, because they have diametrically different lifestyles from such a man. There is also bigotry they develop against never-married men because of paranoia that society programs into them.
If you read my article titled "Single Men Are Not All Child Predators," you'll see that a woman named Penny Hefner encouraged parents to be leery of men who had no children and no steady relationship and to take it as a red flag when trusting anyone with their kids. Mental-health professionals will encourage misconceptions like this same one as well. Therefore, what good does YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's advice do in this respect if married people don't want to socialize with anyone outside their circles of social elitists?
The fact of the matter is that, as Americans, we live in a toxic society. Therefore, a never-married man is damned if he does and damned if he doesn't.
At the end of the day, YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's school of thought is attached to a system that no longer works here in the so-called land of milk and honey. The video below will spell out the entire nine yards about why the institutions of marriage and family have become sour grapes here in the American culture.
YouTuber Life Outrage Refuses To Follow The Status Quo Regarding Marriage And Family For Very Good Reasons
An interesting point that YouTuber Life Outrage makes in his video is that there are actually people from Generation Z that talk about buying a house someday and settling down. He thinks that they're delusional, and I agree with him.
3. The Comments Section To YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's Video
You don't really have to read too far into the comments section to YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video to find posts that snipe at her for getting the entire situation of never-married men wrong. Those comments are everywhere there. In any event, I'm going to respond to the ones that I believe make the strongest points.
In the comments section to YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video, YouTuber @dennisyoung9500 posted:
I wanted to get married but based on your research I will forever remain single. Could you break the news to my girlfriend? I must follow what the scientific statistics suggest. This kind of "scientific" psycho-babble makes academic psychologists seem fully out of touch with the reality of lived lives.
I agree with YouTuber @dennisyoung9500. Life's lessons simply cannot be learned in textbooks for aspiring psychotherapists. This man is in a relationship too, and even he disagrees with YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's rhetoric. That alone doesn't say very much for her or other people in the mental-health profession when it comes to giving advice about marriage and relationships.
In the comments section to YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video, YouTuber @GuiltySpark347 posted:
If you can’t find a mate you are lazy in many ways or have some mental disorders.
YouTuber @GuiltySpark347? I don't know if you're a man or a woman. If you're a man, let me say this one thing to you. When your significant other leaves you for a lesbian lover, everyone will be saying crap about you; and you'll deserve it.
In the comments section to YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video, YouTuber @razzking posted:
Make friends with married people? They don't want to talk to you. They only deal with members of The Club. Besides, I knew very few married people with healthy relationships. That's what made finding anyone so impossible after about age 26 or 27. Everyone was married by then...or divorced. That demographic was not interested in single guys. Just other married or divorced guys. One lady was surprised i was still single and actually said: "What? You not even divorced once?" Never got a call back. The remaining unmarried women were dedicated to their careers and you had to make at least twice as much money as they did or otherwise have some "status" or you weren't good for their status. Or they were "done with men" due to their own bad experiences. How many decades does one have to "put themselves out there" on a wild goose chase for something everyone else finds in their 20's? I didn't want to spend my life panning for gold with nothing on the other end for my efforts.
In response to YouTuber @razzking's comment, it is true that the dating market and the prospects of marriage are much more elaborate here in the United States than mental-health professionals care to realize. For this reason, YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video fails to offer anything accurate about the realities of being single versus being married.
In the comments section to YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video, YouTuber @maximebegin1454 posted:
Many of us simply gave up... not because we didn't have the opportunity, but rather because it was so much easier not to have to deal with constant whining and crises. I never get bored, and yet when I was in a relationship, I often found myself not knowing where I stood... Apart from sex, I don't see any advantage for me, and even then, I have a friend who hasn't had sex with his wife for two years because she doesn't want to... Women today have almost nothing to offer that makes it worth putting up with them.
My response to this statement is that when there are married men who feel rejected by their own wives, how can society expect for single men to search for marriage material that is scarce in the first place here in the United States? YouTuber Gentle Path Forward fails to recognize this reality in her video above.
So many American marriages are on what can be best described as auto-pilot insofar as single people cannot exemplify them even by the farthest stretches of the imagination. It all becomes about pleasing society, which is definitely the wrong reason for anyone to search for love and get married.
In the comments section to YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video, YouTuber @CellGames2006 posted:
Oh, look, another young woman telling men how to act and behave. Color me surprised...
My exact thoughts, YouTuber @CellGames2006. How could YouTuber Gentle Path Forward ever know what it feels like to be a man and feel as though you are against all odds whenever you make a concerted effort to find that one special lady who will make you happy forever and be your wife and the mother of your future children?
In the comments section to YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video, YouTuber @rossthebesiegebuilder3563 posted:
Those who give such comically useless advice are people (usually women) who naturally fall into relationships with no conscious effort. All they have to do is "just be themselves," "just put themselves out there," etc., so they assume it's that easy for everybody.
Therein YouTuber @IlluminaZero replied to YouTuber @rossthebesiegebuilder3563 and posted:
A woman's advise tends to be less than useless since they tend to literally just depend on men to do everything for them and take it for granted.
These two gentlemen know the score. If YouTuber Gentle Path Forward were a man in any other line of work than the mental-health profession, her entire outlook on pair-bonding rituals here in the United States would be diametrically different from what it is now. It makes me think of the lyrics of the song below.
The Song Titled "I'd Rather Leave While I'm In Love" By Rita Coolidge
And a woman sang that song. LOL!
In the comments section to YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video, YouTuber @Soal2083 posted:
The next time someone asks me the question, "Why are you single?", perhaps I should just give that person the link to this video, because you've perfectly described me.☺
Or YouTuber @Soal2083, you could tell that person that you're single because of hypergamy and misandry in the American culture. After you tell that person to mind his or her own business, that is.
In the comments section to YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video, YouTuber @MofoMan2000 posted:
It's not a fear of rejection. It's the fear of being fired from our jobs, thrown out of bars or wherever else we may be, or even arrested and registered on certain lists, all because a woman couldn't just say "no". She had to ruin our lives for the crime of asking her out.
You make a valid point, YouTuber @MofoMan2000. However, you know and I know that YouTuber Gentle Path Forward is not going to admit to something like that in her video above, because the mental-health profession doesn't care about the facts. It only cares about making money and playing on the ignorance behind societal norms that have long outlived their purpose.
In the comments section to YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video, YouTuber @carlosgil4248 posted:
So if you're older in your 40s and 50s you wont have common ground with women half your age? Whatever happened to younger girls like older men? So if they don't like them young because men are inexperienced at their age. Then my takeaway from this if you're too young you're cooked. And if you're older you're also cooked. Damn if you do and damn if you don't. Smh
YouTuber @carlosgil4248? Don't expect a mental-health professional to say anything to build a man's confidence. Especially a female mental-health professional. They're in the business to make money rather than actually to help anyone.
In the comments section to YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video, YouTuber @ahall1459 posted:
Its not as "labelled " as your saying....you have labelled (and referenced others with cliché comments "not going to sugar coat it!"...sugar coat what? you never explained this definition of that situation...you just went on) these reasons on why this is so & its not quite right...there are MANY MANY reasons why...some are personal awarenesses of their limitations (no longer able to tolerate another person in their life, except as friends - and THIS, is based on that individuals history...some of which is true, as you mentioned them)... What you are offering is basically a general guide & its a slightly passively aggressive way of shaming the viewer with these study results as they are general in nature...not intentionally. You mean well...but its not helpful...just confirming what they already know.
I hear you, YouTuber @ahall1459. YouTuber Gentle Path Forward's video doesn't help anyone. It seems more like something that she produced to shame men needlessly for things that she doesn't seem to understand fully.
4. Final Thoughts
American men? Nobody here is recommending that you become a die-hard antinatalist, but let's stop these mental-health professionals from trying to sell us a fairy tale about marriage and family. Having a woman does not make a man a better person. If a married man is a good person, it's because he was that way before he ever met his wife or started a family. Married people are no better than never-married people.
If any American men are having a difficult time attaining the milestones in life of marriage and family, it's because they don't have a whole lot of quality women from which to choose. Look at how women look like today as compared with 10 or 15 years ago. They're wearing nose rings. Gross! They have tattoos all over their bodies. Tacky!
Perhaps if you're in a bike gang, then a woman like that would appeal to you. However, if you're a clean-cut man, women with nose piercings and tattoos all over their bodies are going to turn you off.
I don't want to hear any more female shrinks telling me and or any man that its defects in a man's appearance, personality, or social skills that cause him to lose out on marriage and family. Don't even buy into all this garbage about the autism spectrum being an obstacle to love and marriage. At the end of the day, for the average American man, the United States has nothing to offer in the form of marriage and family.
As American men, we all need to stop allowing these head doctors to lower our self-esteem so that they can peddle their rhetoric and propaganda. It's no mystery why the mental-health profession is turning into a snake-oil sales event every time one of these shrinks get a bright idea about belittling men for their own self-serving purposes. Glory hallelujah that the manosphere knows how to put people like YouTuber Gentle Path Forward in their place.
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