New - Mindset

No, no, no, don't be afraid, I'm not going to drop a whole post about how to get a new mindset, this post is going to be about something else, but still connected to mindset.

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The topic is not new, I've been noticing this thing appear more and more lately and last night I saw a post from @calendulacraft, who's a big inspiration to me (and I owe her a post about an upcoming project of mine, inspired by her), and decided to finally write about it. It may be an eye opener, if you want to change your life and take things seriously, but that's not my goal here. I just want to write about it.

There's a whole obsession, or hysteria going around among people who live a superficial life and you're going to see why I say that.

We started a new year roughly a month ago and this is the time when people (pretend)want to change their lives. As I mentioned in my previous posts, this is what New Year resolutions are for, to show off with their intentions, which remain intentions mostly as only a selected few are still sticking to their plans. The rest is doing it for social validation and to look good in others' eyes. Not that anyone cares, but they don't know that.

New year, new month, new week, Monday, all these mean a new beginning for some. Yes, for some.

When I was in school, every new school year meant new notebooks, for every subject we studied. I remember I promised myself every single year, that those notebooks will be written with the most beautiful handwriting. This promise was kept for a week or two, then my writing turned into something that looked like written by a pig with its left leg. This is a Hungarian expression by the way, addressed to those who have a very ugly handwriting.

During my university years, this was justified as professors, lecturers were speaking freely and were definitely not waiting for you to write everything down at your own speed, but schools were different. It all depended on me and after a couple of weeks, I was back to my old habits, writing like a pig. Truth to be told, my handwriting is not so bad compared to others, but not nice by my own standards.

@calendulacraft wrote something last night that made me think of how people quit their project and start a new one, thinking that will be better.

Anyone who frequents the crafty corners of the internet will have noticed a trend: everyone is getting new journals and planners to celebrate our entrance into 2026. And, I totally get it. There is a special boost of energy to starting anew with the new year. And, somehow, a brand new journal symbolizes a fresh start. I am not opposed to buying new things, but, why should I abandon my old notebooks when I have a couple of perfectly good ones with plenty of pages left to fill? Today I want to de-influence my fellow crafters. We don't need to buy anything new, at least not until the pages of the last journal are filled up.

Maybe those crafters are not starting a new scrapbook, because the old one is a failure, but why not finish the one you have and then start a new one? What is stopping you?

This happens on every field and on every level I think. You buy a new pair of shoes, enjoy them when they are new, wear them, then have no respect to them after a few months and just buy new ones. Clothes too.

This is mainly damaging to your wallet or bank account and the environment as fast fashion can create a lot of damage to nature, but can have serious consequences if you do this with projects, jobs. I know people who have been changing jobs every two or three years, to avoid new challenges regarding professional growth and upping their performance.

It definitely takes some time to get mature enough to know, running from unfinished business, or starting over repeatedly is not going to take you far as it is like walking the same path and expecting different outcome. Some can live like this their whole life, denying reality and the damaging effect a mentality like this has, but worth it?

Every project is a journey and unfortunately so many are looking and focusing only on the final goal, neglecting to see what the journey really means. You don't need life coaches, motivational bullshit courses and videos, that is sold for a lot of money and you get nothing out of them, as it's not tailored to your needs. You just have to be consistent, pay attention to what you're going through and draft your own program, draw your own conclusions. It's going to pay off nicely, trust me.

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